We all have that inner critic. I don’t mean the inner voice of caution or the healthy sense of conscience. I mean that inner voice who heckles when you try to do something grand. You know the one. Here is my suggestion for how to deal with your inner critic.
Give him or her a name. Preferably a name like Velma or Mortimer. You want a name that you can pronounce with disdain. (Sincerest apologies to Velma & Mortimer if you happened upon this post.)
Then, whenever your inner critic chimes in with the usual “you’re not good enough” or “someone else has already done it better” or even “those jeans DO make your butt look big,” you can stand up for yourself.
“Velma,” you can say, “return from whence you came!”
You might feel a little silly doing this, especially if you are in a public place, but I very sincerely mean it. Give your inner critic a name. It is much easier to refuse that inner critic when he has a name. Naming reminds you that you have the power. YOU control that critic. Name her and then tell her you will not believe her lies.
You will have enough hecklers from outside, so learn to manage your inner critic first. I would not suggest speaking to your outer critics the way you talk with your inner critic, but outer critics are a different animal for a different day.
Do you listen to your inner critic? Or tell him/her to shut his/her dirty mouth? Share with civility in the comments.
Some agree with me and some think you should give that critic your ear.
5 Immediate and Easy Ways to Silence Your Inner Critic by Lynn Newman
Dealing with Your Inner Critic from Tools for Revolution
Tips on Dealing with Your Inner Critic from the Self-Help Hipster